Sex and the City 2 “Less is Sometimes Best”


This movie had some very important relationship and “relations” themes that we’ve possibly lost in our Westernized society.  Now some of the practices of Eastern culture are way extreme, but we can learn from the ideal of minimizing lustful situations.  In actuality these situations can be created from “covering up”, but letting it all hang out too soon can also create an adverse affect amongst men and women; such as a man’s decision to view a woman as a harlot versus seeing her as the covered up “Virgin Mary”. 

So what is truly sexier to men?  Booties and breasts hanging out, or the woman who a man has to ponder in his mind about?  “Hmm…I wonder what she looks like under there?”;  ie her clothes or head wrap.  “Her eyes are beautiful…so I wonder how beautiful the rest of her body is?”  The practice of covering up commands a certain respect from a man, and he doesn’t want other men to see or have his prize or goods.  In turn, not knowing what her ASSets look like will drive the man wild, like a little boy who imagines and dreams.  This man will have the drive to find out all about this woman.

The positive for women is that the man is forced to find out about her mind without lusting for her before the wraps are taken off.  At times, all our accessories can be a distraction and seek to define us.  Yes even our hair!  (in reference to the movie “Good Hair”).  These superficial maintenance ideals could possibly keep men from truly getting to know us.  I for one like all women of every culture (as portrayed in the movie), love getting “dolled up”, and our men enjoy seeing us happy.  However, they, if they are a straight man, could care less about how much our clothes cost; what designer we’re wearing; what hairstyle we have; how much our nails and massage cost; or how long it took to get done; unless we are “wifey” and it then affects their bank account.

They love us for us…well, a real man does.  They love us for our minds; when we’re all dolled up or when we are just taking it easy in some sweats and a scarf.  Remember what Drake said; “that’s when you’re the prettiest, I’m hoping you don’t take it wrong”.  Men tell me, that we women dress up for each other.  There’s some truth in that.  Now the shallow men are different.  If they see you in the club with your headwrap they may look the other way.  However, confidence and beauty are within.  I’ve gone from the fro, to braids, to the long weave, to the “Halle” cut, to the headwrap, and still have no problem pullin ‘em.  (But I’m a real life chameleon). 

The strength in being a chameleon is that its power involves the ability to blend in whatever environment it chooses (to protect itself).  The downfall of this characteristic is that it is always becoming what others are (trying to fit in) or who others want it to be; therefore not making a true definition for its own person.  Without knowledge of self, relationships with others will not last long or will always breed difficulty.  Common said it best “never find a man til you find yourself”.  I agree.

You can imagine that I attract all types of men with all of those different looks previously mentioned.  It just depends on which Rae wants to be on the scene that night or the type of event I’m attending.  I’m thinking finding myself will breed consistency in my style or look.  When you’re lost, you’ll try everything (hairstyles and men).  Next stop for me, dreads perhaps?  We’ll see…

Once upon a time I was dating a guy, and he was very reserved and introverted.  Y’all know I’m highly extroverted, and was just being myself by changing up my hairstyles to match my outgoing personality.  He hated it!  So the decision was to wear it like he liked it or just be me.  I didn’t choose the latter initially.  Needless to say the relationship was short-lived.  If you can’t be yourself, you shouldn’t stay in a stifling relationship.  In conclusion, he broke it off.  Thanks for the favor I say!!   

Remember ladies, it’s about what’s within that truly matters; not hot shoes and Birkins.  Men don’t care about those until you ask them for money…and don’t hesitate to try being “prudish” for a day…He will feel 16 again.  Like the man in the movie from Down Under (Australia) said “the forbidden is a huge turn on”…

I’m Catholic and sometimes Baptist.  We grew up wearing pantyhose and skirts to the knee…men like pantyhose…

Many of us truly desire what we can’t have and what appears to be unattainable…sometimes it’s unfortunate, but the one who can get the man or woman they want to want them badly enough as well, has truly mastered the law of attraction which often involves a bit of detachment.


About Dr. Rae

Raechel “Dr. Rae” Rivers was born, raised, and currently resides in St. Louis, Missouri. She has enjoyed creative writing since childhood, but her love of writing grew even stronger during her college years. “Dr. Rae” prides herself on being able to convey such “real” messages about the journey of love. Her words, racy at times, are what some readers need to hear; would not otherwise say, and appreciate for truth and honesty about love-life situations. “Journey to Self: Journey to Love” is her first self-published book printed by Authorhouse. She completed an Ed.S., Educational Specialist degree, in Curriculum and Instruction at the University of Arkansas, Fayetteville in 2011; and is a world-renowned Writer, Entrepreneur, and Love Coach. Her life's mission involves encouraging women and young women of all ages to “work on you and love yourself just the way you are”. Raechel’s book, blog, and message on Self-Love have gained national and international popularity. As a result, she founded Embrace Enterprises and Publishing in 2012 to teach youth and adults about Self-Love and pursuing their purpose and passions. Her company’s motto is “Embrace You; A Lifestyle to Be You”. Additionally, Ms. Rivers also offers workshops on Writing, Publishing, Entrepreneurship, and one-on-one Love Coaching Sessions. She believes that “love is a journey where you go searching and ultimately find yourself”.

5 responses »

  1. Ooooh ~ applauds blog….but loves the descriptive of ASSets~…especially after watching samantha end up in jail. lol but seriously I think we should adopt these old fashion rituals~ (to a certain extent)

  2. Two finger snaps!! Girl I feel you on depending on what event im going on is which personality potential suiters will see. We spend so much time trying find something to wear, getting fixed up, and hours at the salon to be appealing to men. At the end of the day all a man is wondering is either whats under the garments or where is our head.
    I look forward to reading more of your blogs!!!

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