Who Is Mr. Big?



Mr. Big, Mr. Big, I call him Mr. Big.  Mr. Big, Mr. Big for so many apparent reasons.  So who is Mr. Big?  Now you know I’m not going to name any names, but I will tell you what a Mr. Big is.  For starters, Mr. Big is generally 5 to 15 years your senior.  Okay, we got that out the way.  Next, there are many apparent reasons why he’s Mr. Big and not always because of his size.  Mr. Big, yes he’s older; he’s established; he has met every criteria on your wish list.  He is someone you can look up to; he has just about everything you have or are working to build for your life so why not admire or aspire to be in the company of such a “Big” man, as in “Bigtime”.  He’s also usually pretty well-known in your community because of an established occupation (perhaps something entrepreneurial), philanthropic efforts, or maybe he’s just a “Big” socialite in your city or town.

This type of man attracts women of all ages and genres whether he is single or not.  The Mr. Big I’m speaking of happens to be a single one.  Generally, Bigs have been previously married and may possess children almost your age or at least half your age.  He doesn’t come with much drama unless he’s a messy Mr. Big, but remember his reputation in the community is on the line so he has to remain as drama less as possible.

How I met Mr. Big?  I know you are wondering…Yes Love Doctor how?  Well, I was 24 years young…hot and fresh to death…you feel me…I was so fine that I didn’t know I was fine…slim and trim…carefree, footloose and fancy free…you feel me?  Mr. Bigs are definitely attracted to this type…A young, educated, fly, fit, young woman…working toward big dreams (Masters degree attainment at the time).  I was just living it up!  Loving life to the fullest!  I was so enjoying my life at the time that I didn’t pay Mr. Big any mind.  I think he was on his way up then…but heck all I knew was you are 10yrs older than me…older than my oldest sibling, and I wasn’t sure how to react.  Had I known then what I know now…I would have tried to lock him down then.  Ya know? 

You have to catch these types when you first meet them when they are into you and in pursuit because if you don’t, later on down the line when you try to get at him on a serious note…like “hey what’s up Mr. Big I’m ready to get married and have kids now”…he will start smelling himself and forget how he pursued you…he will develop what I’ve coined as the “Mike Jones Syndrome”.  And that’s not a pretty sight because he will officially play with you because he knows that now you’re ready.  See it was better for him when you weren’t ready because that gave him more time to enjoy being in an uncommitted, “touch and go” relationship with you and whomever else.  As you begin to age, he will still look at you like you are 21 or 24, that first day he met you and was so captivated by your beauty.  However, it will never be the same if you did not accept his initial advances.

Do you get where I’m going with this one?  Mr. Big is your ideal partner, if you don’t mind the age difference, but his ego is so enormous that it will take some time to get him down the aisle, if he’s never been married, and back down the aisle if he has.  And don’t think you are going to come at him trying to produce any children out of wedlock…again, the rep is on the line…unless you actually catch him slipping one night which would be a rare occasion.  This man is good to keep around because he knows many people whom you may need contact with so try to maintain a healthy relationship with this one.

In conclusion, if you are not ready for the Big Leagues, Mr. Big is not for you.  If you don’t mind a rollercoaster ride then it may be fun, just realize what you are getting yourself into…with Mr. Big comes increased responsibility to stay on point in all of your personal endeavors.  Since you are no longer 21, he’s not going for the “damsel in distress” routine either.  Sometimes the rules with him are clean cut, and sometimes there are no rules.  The real truth, he’s not ready to settle down because if he was, then he would be.  If you are the chosen one/woman for him…you will know it.  There are no excuses left to come from a man who has everything…if he’s not willing to share with you, then you’re just not the one.  And throughout the years, you will not be able to change the dynamic of the relationship.  “The Thrill Is Gone”…Be his toy or keep it moving, because another fine, young, tender thing is waiting in the wings to catch a ride with Mr. Big…but remember he’s aging too!!!  



About Dr. Rae

Raechel “Dr. Rae” Rivers was born, raised, and currently resides in St. Louis, Missouri. She has enjoyed creative writing since childhood, but her love of writing grew even stronger during her college years. “Dr. Rae” prides herself on being able to convey such “real” messages about the journey of love. Her words, racy at times, are what some readers need to hear; would not otherwise say, and appreciate for truth and honesty about love-life situations. “Journey to Self: Journey to Love” is her first self-published book printed by Authorhouse. She completed an Ed.S., Educational Specialist degree, in Curriculum and Instruction at the University of Arkansas, Fayetteville in 2011; and is a world-renowned Writer, Entrepreneur, and Love Coach. Her life's mission involves encouraging women and young women of all ages to “work on you and love yourself just the way you are”. Raechel’s book, blog, and message on Self-Love have gained national and international popularity. As a result, she founded Embrace Enterprises and Publishing in 2012 to teach youth and adults about Self-Love and pursuing their purpose and passions. Her company’s motto is “Embrace You; A Lifestyle to Be You”. Additionally, Ms. Rivers also offers workshops on Writing, Publishing, Entrepreneurship, and one-on-one Love Coaching Sessions. She believes that “love is a journey where you go searching and ultimately find yourself”.

2 responses »

    • D, I would say you are def a Mr. Big…or more so on your way…but most 25yr old women don’t realize who their Mr. Big is until she almost 30 and ready to step it up!! LOL…when actually it was her innocence that was initially attractive…you go it D!! 😉

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