Ask Dr. Rae: Compatibility


From February 24, 2011

Hello lady, How are you?

I want to ask your opinion since you are writing books on relationships and loving yourself. Do you believe that there is a such thing as not being compatible or personalities clashing, or on the other hand you get along with who you try to get along with. Even though the two are different, they try to make it work, respect the other and compromise to get along. I would like to know your opinion.


My Opinion:

Funny, I was just on the phone last night with one of my friends and I was referencing a book called the “5 Love Languages” (for Singles) there may be one for couples too.  I haven’t read it yet, but the title was convincing.  It talks about how we all love differently…and we actually want to be loved the way in which we show love…for example you could be an affectionate person, and that’s how you show love…so it would be difficult to be with a person who is not affectionate.  You would think they didn’t love you or something, but in fact…that’s just who they are…their love language could be a person who likes to give gifts.  And that’s how they equate love.

What I think and also what the author was saying…if we know that’s just how someone is…it’s okay to still love them…if we are willing to accept them the way they are, like you said, “make it work”.  I’m into the zodiac signs and compatibility; even in our casual or friend relationships we seem to gravitate or feel most comfortable around those who are most like us…ie. I’m a Libra and he’s a Libra etc…there are also other signs like Moon, etc that come into play as well…or We’re both Air signs Aquarius and Libra so we get along…

At the end of the day all of our compatibility assessments definitely make it easier…however, they shouldn’t always be our determining factor…I think that if two people are willing to make it work, and they really love each other then Love will always overrule…you know that I’m a hopeless romantic though 😉 

If the situation becomes or is too much to “make work”…then I think that the parties should go their seperate ways…and we also have to remember to pray and ask God for guidance at all times regarding our relationships.






About Dr. Rae

Raechel “Dr. Rae” Rivers was born, raised, and currently resides in St. Louis, Missouri. She has enjoyed creative writing since childhood, but her love of writing grew even stronger during her college years. “Dr. Rae” prides herself on being able to convey such “real” messages about the journey of love. Her words, racy at times, are what some readers need to hear; would not otherwise say, and appreciate for truth and honesty about love-life situations. “Journey to Self: Journey to Love” is her first self-published book printed by Authorhouse. She completed an Ed.S., Educational Specialist degree, in Curriculum and Instruction at the University of Arkansas, Fayetteville in 2011; and is a world-renowned Writer, Entrepreneur, and Love Coach. Her life's mission involves encouraging women and young women of all ages to “work on you and love yourself just the way you are”. Raechel’s book, blog, and message on Self-Love have gained national and international popularity. As a result, she founded Embrace Enterprises and Publishing in 2012 to teach youth and adults about Self-Love and pursuing their purpose and passions. Her company’s motto is “Embrace You; A Lifestyle to Be You”. Additionally, Ms. Rivers also offers workshops on Writing, Publishing, Entrepreneurship, and one-on-one Love Coaching Sessions. She believes that “love is a journey where you go searching and ultimately find yourself”.

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