The other day I was watching the local St. Louis news; and there was a story about the “ManGagement” Ring. Apparently, this is a practice that has been going on for some time amongst more affluent couples according to one of the local jewelers. Now you can call me an old fashioned girl regarding how I feel about this ideal. Although I consider myself to be very progressive in my approach to dating, proposing marriage to a man is where I draw the line. The Word says, “He who finds a wife…” and you know the rest…Now I’ll admit there are ways to insinuate what you want from a guy whether it be food; affection; going out on a date; money; etc; and maybe even marriage…but getting down on one knee? No, please pick up your self-esteem and security Sister!
What is happening in the way we date these days? Technology has already changed the game; leaving us with less time to properly communicate and actually build relationships with substance via texting, Facebook, and Twitter. ie. (the virtual booty call) Are women becoming this desperate for a man? For a spouse? Whatever happened to the “Cinderella”, “Sleeping Beauty”, “Little Mermaid” love stories? Am I delusional to still want to see my fairytale dream proposal/wedding come to fruition? Or are we really products of the Barbie/Ken generation? She had so much money she could buy her man…kind of like Oprah and Star Jones…idk!
I have been far removed from TV as of late, but I heard some woman proposed and bought a ring for Jim Jones. Wtf? If I’m buying a ring, it won’t be for such a scruffy looking man. LOL! And did homegirl just happen to buy him a ring with his own money? Lmao! Who does that? Rich women I guess…so ladies, do you really feel, as one woman on the news put it, that the men should have on something that shows they’re taken (about to get married)? Or can we stick to the traditional value that the woman wears the ring because she is his prize; and it doesn’t really matter whether he wears one or not? (Because he’ll just be a Bachelor up until the night before the wedding).
I refuse to propose; and I like to believe that I’m secure enough to not require my future man to wear a “ManGagement” Ring. If he’s sincere in wanting to make that loving commitment and not just marrying out of obligation, then he’ll wear his ring in his heart. A ring is only a symbol which some people (men and women) defy daily. Even society doesn’t seem to remember what the symbol stands for…are we really all about status and/or cost of the ring more so than the true values of the relationship? Enter Kim Kardashian and her lavish engagement ring and wedding plans. Does it mean you love me more because of how much the ring costs or how big it is? No! A true loving relationship and commitment has no price tag…and it seems that rings are for show (since not many value its symbolism these days). I’m just sayin…