Like many women, Raechel Rivers, 32, grew up with dreams of meeting prince charming, having a few kids and living happily ever after. But, roughly 42 percent of African American women have never been married—and Rivers is one of them.
“When I reached my late twenties, I began to wonder when is it going to happen?” she says. “I watched friends get married, fall in love, and I wondered why my time hadn’t come. Then I realized I was on a journey toward love, but it didn’t involve anyone else.”
Rivers’ new book, Journey to Self; Journey to Love, is a collection of personal poems, thoughts, and blog entries from her journey through love.
“This book portrays a young woman crossing over from the confusion of adolescence to the responsibility of womanhood–with a sense of self-knowledge,” she says. “In my search for love, I’ve continued to make a full circle back to myself and my Creator. Some of the stories are sad and some funny, but all are worth sharing.”
“When blogging first became popular, I would post my reflections and thoughts about love and dating,” she says. “I received a lot of positive feedback. People were inspired and could relate. They suggested that I document what I was posting. So I did, and it became my book; sort of like a journal.”
“Through the book, I was able to move forward without dwelling on failed relationships and develop new, healthy relationships. This book is geared more toward single women; but it is also for anyone who wants to discover or re-discover how to love their own person, love God and love others.”
With so many love and relationship books on the market, Rivers says authenticity makes her book stand out.
“I keep it real!” she said. “I do not sugarcoat how it feels to be single. I do not sugarcoat what single women go through in finding ourselves and navigating through dating and relationships. I’m not afraid of the truth; it is what sets me free.”
For Rivers, Journey to Self; Journey to Love is just the beginning.
“I’m working on the Self-Love Handbook as a follow-up book,” she said. “It is more of a guidebook than a tell-all. I am also working on a possible fiction book and a screenplay.”