“First Date”


I finally gathered enough energy to go out on a “real date” with someone new!  Yay!  Go Me!  For the past couple of weeks, well for the past month or so, I had been feeling the urge to anyway; considering the inaction and non-actions of the “Boo-Thang” (love interest).  Last time I checked in with you all I told you how “I didn’t get the memo” that he had been seeing/dating other women; and how he is not ready to be in a committed relationship with me.  I was tired of selling myself short; just waiting around for him to decide whether or not I am “the one” for him.  Consequently, my date with the new guy was great!
Do you think that sometimes in dating we just take off too fast?  I do.  We are ready to plan out the whole relationship, marriage, and babies upon first meeting someone we really like.  That’s really not normal!  In fact, what is normal these days in love and relationships?  I told my hottie of a date last night that people come into our lives when we need them to.  We both agreed that honesty works best; even though sometimes giving away too much information can be a turn off, everyone deserves the right to know who or what type of situation they are possibly getting themselves into.  My date was just about as authentic as me, and I really appreciated that about him.  Everything was movie/picture perfect for a “First Date” situation; even our waitress was *blushing*. 

I have to say that this something/someone new who I encountered last night created a fresh energy for me.  Don’t we want all of our relationships/friendships to give us that feeling?  How do we lose that sense along the way with some of our love interests?  Some dating situations turn stale and sour.  Maybe it’s because one person wants more from the other, like a commitment; or wanting to change that person.  The only one you can change is you; and if you don’t like the way a dating situation is working out then you should explore other options because trying to force someone into something or force them to change will make you miserable.  You wind up losing yourself and sight of your purpose. 

 Well, me and my date plan to see each other again.  How exciting!  I mean we had things in common and talked about everything under the sun.  New friendships/relationships are always fun in the beginning, and we hope to be able to maintain authenticity with people.  It feels good to be around people who allow you to be yourself!  He wondered what I am planning to do with my “Boo-Thang” now.  A couple of weeks ago I released a YouTube video on Boo-Thangs, and how we deserve to be more than just a “homieloverfriend”.  Of course I still have feelings for the dude (we are approaching 9 months), but I’ve decided that I can’t just sit around and wait for him; and I really don’t think at this point in his life that he’s expecting me to.  Maybe he’ll come to his senses or maybe he too will continue to date other women or whatever it is that he does when he’s not with me.  Whatever happens, I know that things will work out for the good for everyone because I believe in God and that the Universe is always working to bring me only good; and that’s what I expect for my life! 

 So, no, I’m not going to plan anything…I still desire a relationship/a commitment but this doesn’t usual happen overnight.  Not that it can’t…but our actions must show God that we are open to receiving only the best by removing or letting go of situations or people that block us from receiving what we desire deep inside!

The holidays are approaching!  Good luck cuddling up with your “Boo-Thangs” or your New Thangs!  I love you all!  And I’ll keep you posted!


–Dr. Rae  


About Dr. Rae

Raechel “Dr. Rae” Rivers was born, raised, and currently resides in St. Louis, Missouri. She has enjoyed creative writing since childhood, but her love of writing grew even stronger during her college years. “Dr. Rae” prides herself on being able to convey such “real” messages about the journey of love. Her words, racy at times, are what some readers need to hear; would not otherwise say, and appreciate for truth and honesty about love-life situations. “Journey to Self: Journey to Love” is her first self-published book printed by Authorhouse. She completed an Ed.S., Educational Specialist degree, in Curriculum and Instruction at the University of Arkansas, Fayetteville in 2011; and is a world-renowned Writer, Entrepreneur, and Love Coach. Her life's mission involves encouraging women and young women of all ages to “work on you and love yourself just the way you are”. Raechel’s book, blog, and message on Self-Love have gained national and international popularity. As a result, she founded Embrace Enterprises and Publishing in 2012 to teach youth and adults about Self-Love and pursuing their purpose and passions. Her company’s motto is “Embrace You; A Lifestyle to Be You”. Additionally, Ms. Rivers also offers workshops on Writing, Publishing, Entrepreneurship, and one-on-one Love Coaching Sessions. She believes that “love is a journey where you go searching and ultimately find yourself”.

2 responses »

  1. Once again great blog! I think it’s time we let go of the BooThang and enjoy some first dates! You’re right temperature changing and body heat is needed for single! Lol

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