Happy 2013! We are officially well into the New Year; it’s almost March! It seems I’ve been hiding…hiding from you all and hiding from myself. You ever just feel so scatter-brained? We pray for change with the New Year making resolutions and such. This year I didn’t make resolutions but a New Year’s Wish List. I haven’t quite seen these wishes come true, but the good news is that I feel them on the horizon. A new friend of mine asked me, when I told him about my wish list plan, did I write out how I would accomplish them. Now there’s a thought. No, I didn’t plan it out; I just had to write out what I want to happen in 2013. Write the vision down; know what it is that you want from life. In reality, I don’t feel as though I’ve been true to or working hard enough to see these dreams come into manifestation. It’s easy just to coast along, but let us remember that we must take action with the energy of the New Year instead of letting it get away from us. Sometimes we can be in such a rush for change that we will try too hard. On the other hand, if we don’t keep referring to what we want, like actually looking at our list of goals and desires, we lose sight of them and get caught up in the everyday pressures of living life. Pressures, meaning whatever life can unexpectedly throw at you such as illness, financial woes, lost love life or loved ones, etc. We must learn to navigate through the hardships while attempting to enjoy life and focus on what makes us happy in life such as pursuing our goals.
Now this brings me to our love topic of the day. I plan to go live again soon on my YouTube Channel www.youtube.com/drraelovecoach for a 2013 message. Where are we in our love lives today? Here goes… the love life is just as scattered as the brain. Everything is connected here. Let me explain. For example, after a 20 minute conversation with the 2012 Boo-Thang on December 30th, and evaluating where I am on this day in February, somehow it all makes sense. I thought I’d found the one…one of the ones…you know you get that feeling sometimes. I spent countless energy attempting to pursue this relationship with said Boo-Thang who continued to mention his emotional unavailability due to a break-up that occurred earlier in the year. We had some great times in 2012, but I was unable to obtain that sought after solid relationship with a title that I’ve been searching for/desiring. Which brings us to the present day 2013…transition.
The transition is a strange but excellent place to be in. Like everything it has its pros and cons. Essentially, this is what the 2012 Boo-Thang was trying to express. Long story short, he felt as if we needed to focus on getting our lives together instead of being in a relationship. As the holidays have come and gone, Christmas, New Years, and Valentine’s Day, I found myself alone. Not even a Boo-Thang to share them with…this reality check at age 32 has hit me in the face…and heart…but now I’m back and ready to pursue my purpose and passions. I’m ready to get my life in order and together. So you’re thinking “haven’t you been doing this for awhile now”…why yes. I spent the last six years pursuing a Doctorate degree that I was unable to complete. How long will this transition last and what exactly is it? This is no longer the finding myself transition. Someone asked me that the other day. “He said you didn’t have a Valentine because you’re finding you”…uh No… I had a Valentine last year and where is he today? He ran away…because he was in transition when I met him…I’ve always thought that I was ready to settle down. I still am…but we all must go through the transition. It is similar to finding yourself…only it goes deeper than that. It doesn’t matter your age when you go through this process. I’m thinking that if we don’t complete this transition at a given time, we’ll have to pick it back up again. What am I talking about? Really pursuing what you are passionate about!
I want security…the kind that doesn’t come from a 9-5; the type of jobs I’ve been trying to obtain for almost two years now. It’s bewildering because it shouldn’t take so much to get a job these days. Is it because the Universe, God, is pushing me to a different calling? Something outside of the norm? A few weeks ago, my mom said that I act as if my book, my baby, doesn’t exist. That’s a mortifying thought. I have allowed the pressures of life to get in the way of what I believe in. Have I lost love for my baby? My creativity…the thing that makes me unique? Let us not lose sight of our gifts and talents because at the end of the day we are worth more than any 9-5 can provide for us. We don’t knock the hustle or the so called stability of it…but what do we really want?
Some may say, I want my Husband and kids…me too…but when he comes along will I be ready? Will I put my passions to the side for him and to start a family or will I be ready to roll! I’ll have something in place that looks like I’m ready. Here’s what I’ve done and accomplished…for now…I’m just in transition. So when the next stranger, old, young, married…whatever, whoever tries to make you feel insecure for being over 30 and single just say…”I’m in transition”…God is still preparing me for who and what He has for me. I have a BIG dream to accomplish!
If they can’t respect that, then you definitely don’t have time for the distraction. Keep it moving!
I didn’t say don’t date…but don’t settle or allow anyone to make you feel like something is wrong with you…God has someone for you because you believe. We attract that which we are…as we get more settled from the transition, the right person will appear. By this time we will be more confident in ourselves for working toward the dream we believe in.