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Goodbye 2013!

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newyear14It’s almost over! Woo Hoo! Around this time every year, most of us are excited to cross over into a new year. Why? What makes the end and beginning of the year so different than any other time of the year? I believe it’s because  of our belief that the beginning of the year, or first month of the new year, gives us a clean slate. We feel that we have a chance to set new goals for our lives. I have retired the practice of making New Year Resolutions. It seems that resolutions are harder to keep so in 2013 on January 1st I made a “New Year Wish List”. Guess what? It was very effective as I checked things off of my list throughout the year. There are a few things that I did not check off, but that has given me an opportunity to do some reflection over the past year, that end of the year review, and re-evaluate what I want to accomplish for the upcoming year. As I stated in my recent YouTube VLog, my biggest 2013 lesson was knowing and walking in my Life’s Purpose. This is really all that matters for me in this lifetime. I know my purpose, and now I must walk in it.

I allowed the basics of life to distract me from my overall life’s mission and goals. I know that I’m not alone when it comes to the distractions that life will throw your way. You will be tested and tried. There were certain situations that I thought would turn out differently for my life, especially over the past two years since moving back to my hometown, St. Louis, MO. Through it all, God, the Creator of the Universe has been guiding me toward a Higher Purpose and Calling. My biggest challenge over the past couple of years has been learning that having a life purpose, we all have one or more if/when we realize it, is more important than job status; relationship status; and income. When I think about my book, that I self-published two years ago, and its message, this is its prime message. Find your life’s purpose and pursue it! Geez, I could be so much further along on my path, if I would just take my on advice right?!

Well, enough is enough! I’m ready to pursue and mow this thing down! I’ve had enough of being depressed or sad about my life conditions! I’m ready for change! Are you ready for MAJOR changes in some areas of your life? Is it your finances, career, or love-life? It may be all of the above. You can do it! And why not start in the new year? We have to plan for it and set the goals; we have to write out a new vision and fresh approach to how we are going to achieve what we truly desire from life. You know how fast a year goes by so start today!

action14I also had to continue to learn that loving myself is also apart of my purpose and yours too. Self-love; life purpose; and pursuit of your own happiness is a life long journey. Life will challenge you in every area or maybe just the areas in which you need to grow. As you become stronger in the areas where you are challenged, the challenges become easier and you overcome them. As we go through the new year, it’s important to remember how you felt during the tough times. Those were learning opportunities. What can you do differently in the new year to prevent or prepare for tough times and challenges? You have to allow the tough experiences to make you stronger and better with faith in God and yourself. That’s what I’ve done. It’s easy to get down or have a pity party, but that will not bring you prosperity but only more negativity. Let’s vow to focus on what is going to bring us the results we desire for 2014. As with New Year Resolutions, the New Year Wish List takes some work and action. It is great to have a long list of wishes, desires, and even a vision board, but faith without works is dead. We must take action on what we want to manifest in our lives.

Here’s something different you may want to try, make a Self-Love Mission Statement and Self-Love Affirmations. When we love ourselves, we will not settle in any area of our lives. For example, your goal may be to see financial or an increase in your career. You can affirm and write out a mission statement such as “I love myself and want to see a financial increase in my business. Therefore I will take daily actions to work on my business goals, blogs, networking, services, and events.” Your goal may not be for business but for your health. You can write a similar but different statement like “I love myself and want to lose weight and take care of my overall health. Therefore I will eat healthy foods, exercise, check-in with my doctor, and commit to an overall lifestyle change”. Are these sounding too much like new year resolutions? Whatever you want to call them, the consistent theme is that you must take action. Not just in January, but you must make a commitment to what you desire to see change in your life all year long. Print your mission statement and affirmations out and place them in multiple places where you can remind yourself of your goals everyday. You may even want to just focus on one goal at a time; or take a holistic approach by having multiple goals to loving yourself and your life in the new year.

selflove14I’m very excited about what the upcoming year has in store! I’m making a commitment today to seeing my vision come to fruition! I look forward to hearing about your new year plans. Love you all and wishing you LOVE, Good Health, and Prosperity for 2014! Also, if you have a Self-Love; Dating; or Relationship question please reach out to me for my “Ask Dr. Rae” segment. I will address your question via YouTube or my blog here. Feel free to Tweet me @raeluvs2write or on Facebook at drraelovecoach or email at dr.rae31@gmail.com which is also my paypal address if you would like to purchase a signed copy of my book “Journey to Self: Journey to Love”. Happy New Year Everyone!!

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