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Goodbye 2013!

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newyear14It’s almost over! Woo Hoo! Around this time every year, most of us are excited to cross over into a new year. Why? What makes the end and beginning of the year so different than any other time of the year? I believe it’s because  of our belief that the beginning of the year, or first month of the new year, gives us a clean slate. We feel that we have a chance to set new goals for our lives. I have retired the practice of making New Year Resolutions. It seems that resolutions are harder to keep so in 2013 on January 1st I made a “New Year Wish List”. Guess what? It was very effective as I checked things off of my list throughout the year. There are a few things that I did not check off, but that has given me an opportunity to do some reflection over the past year, that end of the year review, and re-evaluate what I want to accomplish for the upcoming year. As I stated in my recent YouTube VLog, my biggest 2013 lesson was knowing and walking in my Life’s Purpose. This is really all that matters for me in this lifetime. I know my purpose, and now I must walk in it.

I allowed the basics of life to distract me from my overall life’s mission and goals. I know that I’m not alone when it comes to the distractions that life will throw your way. You will be tested and tried. There were certain situations that I thought would turn out differently for my life, especially over the past two years since moving back to my hometown, St. Louis, MO. Through it all, God, the Creator of the Universe has been guiding me toward a Higher Purpose and Calling. My biggest challenge over the past couple of years has been learning that having a life purpose, we all have one or more if/when we realize it, is more important than job status; relationship status; and income. When I think about my book, that I self-published two years ago, and its message, this is its prime message. Find your life’s purpose and pursue it! Geez, I could be so much further along on my path, if I would just take my on advice right?!

Well, enough is enough! I’m ready to pursue and mow this thing down! I’ve had enough of being depressed or sad about my life conditions! I’m ready for change! Are you ready for MAJOR changes in some areas of your life? Is it your finances, career, or love-life? It may be all of the above. You can do it! And why not start in the new year? We have to plan for it and set the goals; we have to write out a new vision and fresh approach to how we are going to achieve what we truly desire from life. You know how fast a year goes by so start today!

action14I also had to continue to learn that loving myself is also apart of my purpose and yours too. Self-love; life purpose; and pursuit of your own happiness is a life long journey. Life will challenge you in every area or maybe just the areas in which you need to grow. As you become stronger in the areas where you are challenged, the challenges become easier and you overcome them. As we go through the new year, it’s important to remember how you felt during the tough times. Those were learning opportunities. What can you do differently in the new year to prevent or prepare for tough times and challenges? You have to allow the tough experiences to make you stronger and better with faith in God and yourself. That’s what I’ve done. It’s easy to get down or have a pity party, but that will not bring you prosperity but only more negativity. Let’s vow to focus on what is going to bring us the results we desire for 2014. As with New Year Resolutions, the New Year Wish List takes some work and action. It is great to have a long list of wishes, desires, and even a vision board, but faith without works is dead. We must take action on what we want to manifest in our lives.

Here’s something different you may want to try, make a Self-Love Mission Statement and Self-Love Affirmations. When we love ourselves, we will not settle in any area of our lives. For example, your goal may be to see financial or an increase in your career. You can affirm and write out a mission statement such as “I love myself and want to see a financial increase in my business. Therefore I will take daily actions to work on my business goals, blogs, networking, services, and events.” Your goal may not be for business but for your health. You can write a similar but different statement like “I love myself and want to lose weight and take care of my overall health. Therefore I will eat healthy foods, exercise, check-in with my doctor, and commit to an overall lifestyle change”. Are these sounding too much like new year resolutions? Whatever you want to call them, the consistent theme is that you must take action. Not just in January, but you must make a commitment to what you desire to see change in your life all year long. Print your mission statement and affirmations out and place them in multiple places where you can remind yourself of your goals everyday. You may even want to just focus on one goal at a time; or take a holistic approach by having multiple goals to loving yourself and your life in the new year.

selflove14I’m very excited about what the upcoming year has in store! I’m making a commitment today to seeing my vision come to fruition! I look forward to hearing about your new year plans. Love you all and wishing you LOVE, Good Health, and Prosperity for 2014! Also, if you have a Self-Love; Dating; or Relationship question please reach out to me for my “Ask Dr. Rae” segment. I will address your question via YouTube or my blog here. Feel free to Tweet me @raeluvs2write or on Facebook at drraelovecoach or email at dr.rae31@gmail.com which is also my paypal address if you would like to purchase a signed copy of my book “Journey to Self: Journey to Love”. Happy New Year Everyone!!

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Self-Love Girl of the Month, Crystal Morton Hill

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What a year folks!  We have officially crossed over into September; closing out the Summer, and approaching Fall which is my favorite season, right after Spring!  Why do I love the Fall? Well because September marks my birthday month, the beginning of Fall, and Libra Season.  The Fall is for Harvesting!  What does the word harvest sound like to you?  ABUNDANCE!  Yes, I’m talking preparing for a Season of Purpose that we’ve worked so diligently for throughout the year.  This life is like a rollercoaster and a Six Flags Theme Park!  We must ride the Tidal Waves of life as they roar through!  Can you keep up?  Our Summer was heavy as we had to muddle through the typical growing pains and ins & outs, literally, of relationships.  Some relationships ended; some budded; and some, well stayed the same.  For the month of June, “Self-Love Month”, we did some inner-investigating while dating.  Once July hit, it was every woman for herself trying to figure out, “what’s this thing called life again”?  “Does my life have meaning, and am I living my purpose”? What is my purpose, again?  Sometimes life is like that, just up and down as you grow and learn and experience relationships, challenges, good times, bad times, and situations; even in your career.  I know that some of you are like me trying to figure out how to get your money up, or make a career transition without disrupting your family and home life or your whole life in general.  Let’s just face it; some things are in our control and some things are not.  We have to trust the Infinite Wisdom of our Divine Creator every step of the way!  So how do you do it?  How do you navigate the winding road of life while maintaining your sense of purpose?  Allow me to introduce a young woman who has traveled that bumpy road of unexpected events, and how she has maintained purpose through it all; my “Self-Love Girl of the Month”, Ms. Crystal Morton Hill!
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Ms. Morton Hill is a Birmingham, AL native who possesses an extreme drive and zest for life.  She obtained her Bachelor’s degree in Business Administration from
Talledega College; Alabama’s first private Historically Black College and University (HBCU) in Talledega.  Crystal also achieved a Masters in Public Administration; with a concentration in Emergency Management from Jacksonville State University in Jacksonville, AL.  Further, she is also a proud and active member of Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority Inc.  Ms. Hill told me that she always wanted her own business.  She just didn’t know what it would be; and that’s how she chose her first degree’s major in Business.  As a result of her desire to live out her life’s purpose and start her own business, Crystal is the CEO and Founder of her own company Jazzy Jewels by Crystal!  Jazzy Jewels by Crystal includes Ms. Hill’s custom-made, uniquely designed, and creatively expressed jewelry pieces for women and men.  I wanted to know her story; how long she’d been making jewelry; how she got into the industry; and at what moment she realized that she wanted to be in business for herself.

In the Summer of 2009, Crystal lost her job and almost lost her mind.  Jewelry-making became her therapy while looking for jobs.  She was also very active in her Sorority at the time.  When new women would join the organization, she’d give jewelry as gifts, “poodle charm bracelets”, to save money instead of buying gifts.  Her sorority’s chapter President was so impressed, just as her Mom, Dad, and friends had been for years, and told her that she needed to “do this BIG”.  At that point, her president’s fourteen year-old son made Ms. Hill an Instagram page for Jazzy Jewels by Crystal, and she immediately began “getting hits online”.  “I didn’t believe it!” Ms. Hill expressed.  After seeing the online attention she received from unknown browsers, Crystal decided to create the Jazzy Jewels by Crystal Facebook page.  What inspired her even more was the number of people who saw a picture Ms. Hill’s sorority sister posted on Facebook sporting the jewelry.  She was tagged in the photo, and people kept inquiring about the cost of the jewelry.  Crystal was stunned at her initial success!  In this moment, she knew that it was time to move forward with her childhood dream.
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As a little girl, Ms. Hill admired her dad and wanted to be just like him.  He was in business for himself and was a published Author who illustrated his own books.  He told
Crystal that “your name is everything”.  Therefore, she believes that you have to create a dynasty for yourself and your children; and this is her motivation for Jazzy Jewels by Crystal as well as her love for high-end fashion and creativity.  I asked Crystal if there is a need for more custom jewelry making artists.  “No, I will handle it for everybody!  I don’t want any competition! No!” she replied.  If there are too many custom jewelry designers, then the jewelry becomes mainstream, Ms. Hill informed me.  She has been well received by the industry.  They have loved, embraced, cheered, and invited her to several trunk shows all over Alabama; in Atlanta, GA; and in St. Louis, MO.  While being accepted by many designers and consumers, Ms. Hill has had to fight against some misconceptions of spectators. “I look like a Rich Bitch!” Crystal exclaimed.  It upsets her that people judge her by the way she looks; they don’t think she looks “handy” or “artsy”.  Consequently, consumers would also be surprised to know that Ms. Hill is a member of the Greater Birmingham Bead Society, where she earned the “stringing jewelry artist” shirt.  Overall, Crystal attributes her creative genes to her left-handedness.  She stated that her brain just thinks differently and uniquely.
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So what about love?  I asked Ms. Hill her definition of self-love.  “Self-love is what you do to yourself; for yourself; and with yourself”, she described.  Crystal shared that what you do “to” yourself includes keeping up your personal hygiene, going to doctors’ visits, being in the healthy zone, eliminating “B.S.” from your life, and living stress free.  What you do “for” yourself involves what you do to make you happy, and the extra things that make your day.  For example, Crystal enjoys taking professional pictures, skiing, and going to the casino, which usually involves time spent with others.  However, what you do “with” yourself are the things that you don’t necessarily need or want others to do with you; because you are doing them with yourself.  Ms. Hill likes going out to the movies, making jewelry, and going on yogurt dates.  It is a date with yourself.  What an inspiration!  When your self-love is in order, you can prioritize your life and stay focused on your purpose.

I was interested in Crystal’s future goals for her business.  Ms. Hill aspires to have her jewelry line featured in fashion runways; and to enter into mass production by offering a few custom-made items in select department stores.  “I wanna see it!” she shouted; but she doesn’t want her jewelry in small local boutiques because there isn’t room for much exposure in that type of venue.  Furthermore, Crystal informed me that she works her business “all the time” not just part time.  When people see her, they see jewelry.  Sometimes she feels that she is “on-call” like a doctor, and people expect her life to stop to fulfill a jewelry order.  Ms. Hill’s customers return because of the exclusivity of her designs for graduation, wedding, and bridal shower gifts.  She rarely duplicates the jewelry items; remaining consistent with the custom made-to-order and timeless products.
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With all of this work on her own business, I wanted to know if or when Crystal has time to date.  She jokingly expressed that she is dating her jewelry.  Ms. Hill goes on dates but is not exclusively dating anyone.  She said that she views herself as “an aggressive little ‘spit-fire’ and a “slab of marble”; “pretty to look at but hard to crack”. Crystal has to defend herself because often people try to tell her what she should be doing regarding her jewelry, but everyone has different tastes and there are so many different people.  As she quoted, “beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, but talent and creativity is in thine hand”.  I’d agree, no one can tell you the “how to” for your own God-given and creative talent!  Ms. Hill is a “go-getter, uberly professional, and excited about life and any opportunity to put new jewelry out!”  She wants readers and her fans to know that “your name is your dynasty”.  She encourages, “do something in your life to make sure that your name and legacy lives on after you’re gone”. Crystal says, “jazz up your wardrobe, jazz up your life!”
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Find Jazzy Jewels by Crystal on Facebook and Instagram @JazzyJewelsbycrystal.  She can also be contacted at jzyjwl@gmail.com or call 706-50-JAZZY to place your order!

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If you are interested in becoming my Self-Love Girl of the Month or would like to recommend someone please contact me directly at dr.rae31@gmail.com; State why you or someone you know should be considered the Self-Love Girl of the Month and your definition of Self-Love.

Love ya All!

 

 

 

Life Purpose

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Loving-LifeWhat is better than finding your Soul Mate? Finding your Life Purpose… Why, you ask? Your Life’s Purpose is always with you and will always be with you! It is what you think about before you go to sleep…and first on your mind when you wake up in the morning… To many it may sound like I’m describing the feeling you have for a special person. Love of your Life’s Purpose is that same feeling; the feeling you have for your Soul Mate or someone who you believe is your Soul Mate. Why is finding and having a Life Purpose so important? Your “definiteness of purpose” as Napoleon Hill defined, gives you meaning and focus in life. Your purpose gives you something to live for. Why do you get up every morning? Why are you living? Maybe you don’t know…maybe you have drifted away from what you really love. That will happen at times; sometimes we lose sight of purpose because life can be tough. Living this life is all about our perception of what happens to us, not just what happens to us. It’s okay if you haven’t defined your exact purpose. It’s not always one thing; it can be several things. The most important aspect is that you choose something to focus on while you have time on this side of the Earth to do so.

lovelife3Your life’s purpose is something you can pray and meditate on. In fact, you may find that it is something that has been with you and in you since childhood; because God placed it in you! You don’t need to consult with anyone or need anyone’s permission to do what you feel called to do. You will feel so much better about your life once you come into alignment with this special calling. You will be excited about life again! You will not be persuaded to get down about what you can’t control; even the people in your life who you surely can’t control. You just embrace everything about you and the tugging of the Spirit of God within that’s telling you what to do. You want to be happy deep down inside, and only you know what really makes you happy. It doesn’t matter where you live or what people come and go from your life. When you are in pursuit of your purpose, when you are living your purpose, nothing and no one can get in your way. You are focused on what you need to do. It may be a calling to help others in some way. Usually, it will involve some type of help or service for others. Maybe not in the beginning. When you are fostering this purpose, it may seem as though you are being selfish because you have to take time out to prepare for it. Prepare yourself for the people you are called to help. You may be a researcher, a writer, a teacher, a police officer, doctor, or lawyer. Think of almost any occupation; think about entrepreneurs or people in business or ministry. Every calling involves a process of learning and training, but in the end, what you learn along with your gifts and talents will ultimately benefit someone else as well as yourself.

loveyourlife2So today, begin to get a clear picture about what you really want to do. Only focus on that. Focus on what you want to happen in your life and what you want to have in your life; not on what you don’t want to happen or what you don’t have… You have to trick your brain and begin to “act as if”…act as if you already possess everything that you DESIRE (even your Soul Mate). Trust God and the Universe to help you make it happen. “Don’t worry, be happy” because your life can change in an instant! Everyday affirm your purpose; and everyday look for new opportunities to pursue it! Know that ABUNDANCE is more than money. Abundance is peace, love, happiness, joy, family, and friends. Meditate on all that is good in your life and more goodness will be added unto you! It’s your life to live so start living it with a DEFINITE PURPOSE and FAITH!

Love you all!

Peace and Blessings!

Miss Positivity

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Happy New Year’s Eve Everyone!  The last day of 2012!  We have made it through another year filled with ups, downs, life and love lessons.  It’s time for us to move on into 2013 with a sense of peace and purpose.  For the entire month of December I devoted myself to a 31-day challenge of keeping a positive mindset.  I tried my best to monitor my thoughts, actions, and behaviors; what I read; what I watched and listened to; and who I hung out with.  Although this past month and my endeavor of staying positive was met with some challenges, which are sure to come to us in our life, I can say that my efforts paid off.  I actually feel that I’m getting back to my true self; who has always been a “glass half full” type of person. 

 glasshalffullI’m looking forward to keeping the positive lifestyle for 2013.  This is the only way we will accomplish and manifest the life and love life that we truly desire.  We want to experience all that God has for us; God’s best!  If not, then what is the purpose of living?  In reality, we aren’t promised to have only good days; but we can have awesome days everyday if we alter our perceptions of what’s really going on around us and in us.  Change is inevitable.  Without it, we are not growing.  When I was little, my granny would ask me everyday or whenever I saw her at least once or twice a week, “whatcha know”?  I always wondered why Granny would ask me that all the time.  I would always reply “nothing”; sort of dry-like and confused especially once I was in my teenage years.  Now as I reflect on that simple question, “what do you know”, I realize its importance, and why Granny felt the need to constantly pose it.

The more we know, or the more we are seeking out new experiences; knowledge; insights; the more we are growing.  That’s the purpose or meaning of life.  The acquisition of knowledge, or knowingness, and the ability to share what we are learning with others.  I’m sure Granny hoped that one day I’d give her a new answer; and I’m sure she knew that I knew more than “nothing”.  New information is constantly presenting itself to us everyday; especially now in this instant information age in which we live.  You literally have to be living under a rock or in a cave to miss out on the happenings of the world.  Sometimes it’s an information overload, and for me taking in all the new can become tiresome because some of it is meaningless and unworthy of spending good energy entertaining.  That’s why we must watch what we watch and listen to; too much negativity is exhausting, and we must combat it with positive energy, music, and thoughts. 

 Books-06Today is a great day for making resolutions for the New Year.  We always feel positive about the changes we want to make, but we don’t always stick to them.  Let’s seek to make our goals realistic and attainable enough to become a way of life.  Just like I promised myself 31-days of positivity, which may have become annoying to some of my Twitter followers, let’s promise ourselves to commit to making changes for the New Year that will impact us for the rest of our lives.  Becoming a better person; detoxing from negativity; obtaining a job or entrepreneurial idea; weight loss; seeking a healthy love relationship; whatever the goal or dream is not instantaneous.  Everything we are seeking to accomplish involves a process that begins within and will not manifest until just the right time.  The more positive we are about seeing the result; and the more we believe in its inevitability; and the more work and effort we put toward seeing it come into reality, the easier the process becomes.  Before we know it, we will have all that we desire.  Sometimes it will show up nothing like we expected, but the outcome will be good!

So what is it that you desire for 2013?  Write it down and start working on making your dream a reality.  In 31 days, I didn’t obtain the goals, dreams, or desires that I had written down, but I can truly say that my rewards are intrinsic.  I started the process of constant belief.  I decided to stick to something; staying positive about my life and the direction in which it is going despite its external conditions.  Just because you don’t see your dream right away, it doesn’t mean you give up; it means you keep going and keep pushing because there is a lot of work being done behind the scenes.  God knows; the Universe is working on your behalf because you believe.  I am believing with you.  The time is now!

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STL Author’s New Book Takes a Unique Journey Through Love

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STL Author’s New Book Takes a Unique Journey Through Love
by Raegan Johnson

Like many women, Raechel Rivers, 32, grew up with dreams of meeting prince charming, having a few kids and living happily ever after.  But, roughly 42 percent of African American women have never been married—and Rivers is one of them.

“When I reached my late twenties, I began to wonder when is it going to happen?” she says. “I watched friends get married, fall in love, and I wondered why my time hadn’t come. Then I realized I was on a journey toward love, but it didn’t involve anyone else.”

Rivers’ new book, Journey to Self; Journey to Love, is a collection of personal poems, thoughts, and blog entries from her journey through love.

“This book portrays a young woman crossing over from the confusion of adolescence to the responsibility of womanhood–with a sense of self-knowledge,” she says. “In my search for love, I’ve continued to make a full circle back to myself and my Creator. Some of the stories are sad and some funny, but all are worth sharing.”

Journey to Self; Journey to Love is available for $13.99 on Authorhouse.com or $14.99 at Barnes & Noble and on Amazon.com.

“When blogging first became popular, I would post my reflections and thoughts about love and dating,” she says.  “I received a lot of positive feedback. People were inspired and could relate. They suggested that I document what I was posting.  So I did, and it became my book; sort of like a journal.”

Rivers says writing the book was liberating as she faced inner struggles and learning to love herself.

“Through the book, I was able to move forward without dwelling on failed relationships and develop new, healthy relationships. This book is geared more toward single women; but it is also for anyone who wants to discover or re-discover how to love their own person, love God and love others.”

With so many love and relationship books on the market, Rivers says authenticity makes her book stand out.

“I keep it real!” she said.  “I do not sugarcoat how it feels to be single. I do not sugarcoat what single women go through in finding ourselves and navigating through dating and relationships.  I’m not afraid of the truth; it is what sets me free.”

For Rivers, Journey to Self; Journey to Love is just the beginning.

“I’m working on the Self-Love Handbook as a follow-up book,” she said.  “It is more of a guidebook than a tell-all. I am also working on a possible fiction book and a screenplay.”

Follow Rivers’ blog on https://drrae.wordpress.com, www.twitter.com/raeluvs2write, www.youtube.com/drraelovecoach.

Ask Dr. Rae: “Why Am I Not Married Yet?”

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From February 26, 2011

Hey All!  One of my readers contacted me with this question.  And guess what?  He’s a 30 year old guy!  So I’ve decided to turn this into a blog response more so than an individual response to my friend.  We all, single people, find ourselves posing this question from time to time.  I’ll say that even as a guy, he has a right to ask this question.  My girlfriends and I discuss this topic often and we feel that it’s easier for guys than it is for women to get married.  Why?  Because traditionally the man is supposed to do all/most of the initiating in a relationship.  Sure I’ve thought about proposing…but that is crazy to me and unnatural for me.  I don’t think a woman should put herself out there like that…maybe that’s the old-fashioned girl mentality in me.  I wonder how my guy readers would feel about a woman proposing to him?  But let’s talk about the basics first; you have to be “in a relationship” first before you can consider or talk about marriage.  And we know from experience how difficult it can be just to get a serious commitment.

So let me break this down into 5 Principles that could be affecting why we are not married:

1)       You might not be ready.

You think you are ready, but really you are not.  On the other hand, you could think that you aren’t ready, but really you are.  For me personally, I desire to be married…just not today.  Now this has nothing to do with me “sowing royal oats”…that’s what my 20s were for.  I just have some work to do…work on my life purpose.  As you all know, I’m graduating from school this year with my second advanced degree.  So now, I’m preparing for work and to start building my life.  You may have already completed your education and could be well into an established life so now you think you’re ready, but this isn’t always the case.  Sometimes we carry around pain and heartache from past relationships that we don’t even realize we are carrying.  If we don’t release our past, it affects the way our future plays out.  We attract that which we are.  This is why the Self-Love journey is so important…to cleanse us from all past hurts.

2)       You don’t know what you want.

We all know what we don’t want in a Mate or relationship, but have we clearly defined what we do want.  I honestly feel that I’ve narrowed it down to my long list man!  LOL!  Once we decide what we want, we shouldn’t waver from that because this will send mixed messages to the Universe.  No one is perfect…but we definitely want someone who will be a mirror image (on the inside) of ourselves.  This may take some time to investigate who we really are as a person.  As we work on who we are, we will desire to see those same things in our Mate.  Write it down if you have to.  Create a Vision Board.  I’ve been working on mine this year.  It involves what I want for my career, wealth, health, love, etc; my ideal life and my ideal Mate.  By looking at this board (click on the link) everyday it helps me to believe in the manifestation of what/who I truly desire. 

3)       You may need a sabbatical.

For info on the sabbatical, go back and view what I wrote about my Un-Valentine’s Day.  Sometimes a sabbatical is in order.  If you know that you don’t just want or can’t handle a physical relationship…don’t go there, and don’t settle for the booty-call.  For me physical relationships have never manifested or lasted as real relationships.  Don’t feel bad about a sabbatical.  Hey, I’m on one right now…mainly because the one I truly desire is miles away…but there is a Divine Appointment and Divine Timing for every event that takes place in your life.  Trust the Universe and Trust God!  Sabbaticals are good for taking the time out to heal in between relationships…you get to know yourself better; you get closer to God if you are a spiritual person; and you also get to clearly define what you really want in a Mate and from a relationship. 

4)       Bad timing.

As I stated earlier, divine timing is everything.  There may be some other things that you need to focus on that being married may hinder you from completing.  You may have already met the person who you are going to marry, but the timing could be off…it is never wise to try and figure out why things aren’t occurring the way you want them to; your job is to figure out how you can heal and let the past go…and how you can truly live your life to the fullest with or without a Mate.  It sounds cliché’, but they say “it happens when you are not looking” or that you will “just know” when you’ve met this person.  It won’t be perfect when it happens, but it will be perfect for you and the other person. 

5)       It’s time to BELIEVE!

So now you are telling me, Dr. Rae, I’ve done all these things.  I’ve released the past; I know my life purpose; I know what I want; I’ve mastered myself; I’m ready so where is my Mate?  If you have implemented all of my suggestions, then it’s time for you to have unwavering faith.  It’s time for you to expect this person that you so desire to manifest into your life.  That’s it!!  Believe that you are worthy of this person.  Believe that this person is waiting for and looking for you too!

Let me add…while you are waiting, do not compare yourself and your relationship situations to those of your friends.  We all have our own life path to walk out with specific lessons to learn.  Your story may inspire someone else…your healing and heartache; and how you have overcome that may help someone else.

As I continue to become your personal Love Coach and Expert, I will be referencing some books and authors who also advocate the Self-Love walk.  Now is the time for us to heal…

After my book comes out, there will be no more free advice lol!  So get all your questions in now!  Thanks to all for participating and giving the Dr. something to do!  I love you all!

–Rae*

Note- My first response was extra-lengthy so I shortened it for blogging purposes.

 

Happy Un-Valentine’s Day!

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Try not to be alarmed by my negative title…but in honor of Valentine’s Day approaching on Monday, I decided to write to you guys because it’s been so long. So much yet so little going on in Dr. Rae’s world. No, I don’t have a Valentine…yeah, me, myself, and I. There was this one guy that I was into, but sometimes I hear from him and sometimes I don’t; so I decided that Valentine’s Day just does not excite me this year…and I’m supposed to be the “Love Doctor”. Anywho, I’m sort of on a sabbatical. I didn’t plan this one, but I just don’t like anyone right now…it’s really all about me. My life is about to change when the month of May gets here. I’ll be graduating from the University of Arkansas; so I’m really at a turning point. I finally get to end my Career as a Student, but of course I’ll never stop learning.

So much to celebrate…and so much to look forward to in life…Where is life going to take me? And where do I want my life to go? I’m still editing the contents of my book…please be on the look out for it some time this Spring! So my goal for Valentine’s Day is to officially submit my book on that day. A present to myself! I should be able to finish the editing this weekend since I obviously have no plans. You know, being single really isn’t all that bad, but every once in awhile it would be nice to spend some time with someone who I like and who really likes me. You know someone who is around to add something to my life and not just to take away.

I think this sabbatical from Men is Divinely Ordered. You know God has a way of showing us that really, He is all we need at certain times in our life. It really gives me so much time to figure out my next steps in life…and that all that I truly desire in a relationship is worth the wait. Do you all agree? What are your Un-Valentine’s Day thoughts? It’s time out for settling in love. I’m not hating if you have a man/woman or date or booty call for this weekend or Monday, but still…I’d rather be alone than with someone I don’t like or someone who is trying to use me…hey, maybe you are just using the guy *wink*…we all go through different phases in life. But, I am going through a maturity period…and a booty call is not on my agenda these days…

Happy Un-Valentine’s Day to You! And remember above all else, celebrate and love on yourself!

Here are a few things I like to do to love on myself…probably for Valentine’s Day too:

1) Take a bath…when is the last time you just relaxed and soaked in a nice warm bath, maybe even with bubbles?

2) Give yourself a pedicure…whew…my dogs could use some attention right now…you know it is Wintertime…they are being neglected.

3) Cook yourself a nice dinner and dessert…you deserve a little indulgence!

4) Curl up on the couch and watch your favorite movie or read your favorite book.

5) Just relax…and think about your ideal relationship or type of guy…just think…maybe he’s somewhere thinking of you too…ask God to send this man! (LOL!) We know that prayer works…but we trust in Divine Timing!

‘Til next time…Take care of yourselves!